Goodbye… For Now

 

Dear Friends,

Hello!  I hope you are well and happy.  I just wanted to pop in and update you on what has been happening here at Twinkle Little Soul HQ.  You might have noticed I haven’t been around for a little while.  Some things have changed and I’ve decided to take an extended break from blogging.  I wasn’t going to do a goodbye post, it seems so final, but loose ends bother me and I didn’t want to just disappear.

I was lucky enough to get offered an opportunity at my day job where I already earn my income, and I decided to go for it while the opportunity was there, so I’m now studying in my spare time while also working and caring for my kids.  And the funny thing is, I’m really enjoying this new path.  I think the work I’m going to really enjoy doing has been staring me in the face all along.  I just couldn’t see it!

I started this blog because I’m a person who always needs to be learning and growing.  Learning to create and run a blog, create graphics, use social media, and simply practising writing has been a wonderful experience.  I’ve ‘virtually’ met some truly lovely and talented people which has been a big bonus.

The thing is, I never intended this blog to be any more than a hobby, and for a hobby, it is a lot of work.  It’s also not a very relaxing hobby to be honest!  Others are probably better at managing it than me, but I find it hard not to compare and feel like I’m not keeping up.  There is always something to be done, and always someone doing it better than me.  In my heart I know that doesn’t matter, but my head gets in the way too often!  And right now I just don’t have the time to make it as good as I want it to be.

I’m going to leave the website up for now because I love this little space and I can’t let it go yet.  Who knows, one day, when both my kids are at school I might just decide to get into it again.  However I’ll be closing down the social media for now because I won’t be monitoring it.  I’ll still be at the other end of the email if you want to say hi or have a question!

Lastly but most importantly, I want to say THANK YOU for your support of my little learning experience.  I’m so grateful for your time, likes, comments and compliments and for sharing a bit of your life with me.  I’ll continue to be an avid blog reader and supporter, especially of the bloggy friends I’ve made in this time!  If you’d like something new to read, I can highly recommend the following blogs:

So thanks again.  I love you all dearly and hope all your dreams come true.  Look after yourselves and be happy.

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Dear Worrier…

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Dear Worrier…

I see you.  I feel you.

Your belly is full of rapidly beating wings.
Your heart has a gnawing, clawing ache.
You see the sunlight, but you feel the shadows.
You want to believe the best, but you feel the worst.

You wonder, what is wrong with you?  Why do you think this way?

You worry because you notice.
You worry because you care.
You worry because your heart is huge.
You worry because you love.

Darling, there is only so much you can do.  Only so much you can feel.

Let go of some of your burdens, if only because they are heavy.
Let someone else shoulder your fears so you can rest a while.
Let the sunshine chase the shadows away for now.
Let the inhale and exhale of your breath calm the storm.

The world will keep turning, even if you step off for a little bit.

There is no past.
There is no future.
There is only this moment.
Observe, and breathe, and be.

Breathe.  Stretch.  Nourish.  Rest.  Take care of you, and we will take care of us.

Thank you for caring.  Thank you for being you.

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Why Mid-Year Resolutions Work Better

Why Mid-Year Resolutions Work Better

New Years Resolutions. They’re kind of divisive these days, have you noticed?  They still have faithful supporters who make their list and give it their best shot each year.  The haters club is growing, though.  The NY reso has been getting a bad rap, mainly for its high failure rate and potential to make you feel a bit pressured and a bit not good enough when you’ve caved as soon as January 3rd.

I think this is because on January 1st, you’re not actually living your real life.  You’re in summer mode, Christmas has just finished, the kids are on holidays, everything is sweet and sunshiny.  You make your resolution, or a big list of them, with a bright, shiny new year stretching out before you.  Anything feels possible.

When reality and routine kick back in, and you have to fit all those good intentions into your daily grind, things get a bit harder.  Your old habits, your comfort zone, they’re back and they’re demanding attention!  And once you’re back in them, it’s easy to figure ‘well I’ve mucked it up now, what’s the point?  I’m hopeless.  I’ll try again later.’  Before you know it, another year has rolled around and it’s time to make another list.  Eek!

The ‘Word of the Year’ concept has gained a lot of popularity in recent times, and I personally love this idea.  One word to guide your choices and goals for the year.  It is beautiful in its simplicity.  However, I still think specific goals absolutely have a place.

I was thinking about how the ‘financial year’ (for tax purposes) in most countries of the world (notable exceptions being the US and Canada) begins and ends at a point in the mid year – July in Australia and New Zealand, and April in many other countries.  (I work in an accountant’s office.  These are the things I think about).

It’s difficult to find information about why this practice began but it certainly makes sense.  Who wants to be finalising their paperwork and doing their taxes at January 1st?  Who wants to be doing serious tasks and making important decisions when there are parties going on?

Planning your life and setting your goals is kind of serious and important, too.

In the middle of the year, you’re really living in the trenches of your life.  The school and work routine, the housework and bills, the cold and wet weather, the comfort food – you’re wallowing in the guts of it all.  If there are changes you want or need to make, they are going to be clear now.  They will also be practical and useful.  And when you decide to work on these changes, you’re much more likely to find ways to fit them into your real, true life, not the magical one you imagine on New Years Eve.

So, I suggest picking a date in the mid year that works for you (try Easter, or the beginning of June, or the July school holidays) and make this your goal setting time from now on.  Alternatively, make your list whenever you feel the need for some focus and direction.  Forget about what time of year it is.  Do it every couple of months if it helps you.

Set aside some time for life assessing and planning.  Book it in, it’s important!  Then, before anything else, think deeply about your priorities – what are the top 3-5 things that are most important to you in this life?  Keep these in mind when making your list of goals or resolutions.  Remember what really, truly matters to you.

While you’re thinking seriously about your life, consider what is not working.  What bugs you on a daily basis?  What makes you think ‘I wish this were different’ over and over?  These things are important to take care of because your happiness and peace of mind are so important.

Now break up those things you want to work on – your priorities, and your bothers – into smaller, manageable goals and tasks.  These are your useful and practical ‘Mid-Year Resolutions’!  And you know, they’re totally flexible and you can adjust or update them whenever you feel the need.  They are there to help you, not to make you feel like a failure.

So, I say New Years Resolutions aren’t evil.  They’re just poorly timed.  Give them a go now, in the calendar equivalent of the middle of nowhere, and see what comes out.  You might just get yourself on a really positive path.

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